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Holist
As a holistic being you shatter the
illusion of your separateness and reveal
your connection to everything. This empowers
you in a way that the ego-driven self could
never contemplate. ~ Wayne Dyer
As I am beginning my sixth decade of life,
after five filled with many dozens of
different activities, this time now gives me
a sense of “being at the top of my game” in
life. Some people excel in their early
career, others in their middle career, but
for me this is my time.
And being a
Holistic Life Coach? That
perhaps epitomizes who I am, who I “be,” and
what I do best. (Ref. my book,
Sacred
Relationships, A Guide to Authentic Loving,
Chapter 3, “Evolving Our Consciousness:
Achieving the ‘I AM’ State.”)
I have been on a life-quest to find
wholeness in my own life. And as I became
more competent at understanding wholeness
for myself, I realized that most everyone I
knew was also seeking wholeness in his or
her own life.
Life has taught me that a fulfilling life is
an integrated and balanced life. Sure, we
can push our efforts in one area for a time,
even years, to achieve some desired goal,
but in the end after our goals have been
achieved, we then yearn for a life that is
balanced with work, play, social activities,
study, relationships, and relaxation —the
essentials of our well being.
Being a Holistic Life Coach has been a
natural expression for me. Since 1993, this
has become an increasingly frequent part of
my life, whenever anyone has asked questions
about their own life.
My career has been deep and rich with dozens
of activities from writer, authors,
counselor, advisor, inventor, small business
owner, non-profit founder and organizer,
father, volunteer, and many more.
At the heart of my self, I am a romantic. I
have a passion for life, the whole of life,
and I’ve experienced the fullness in terms
of failures, successes, difficulties, and
the overcoming of obstacles. The growth from
challenges has proven the most important
ingredient of my life.
Holistic Life Coaching developed naturally
for me from being a father. …just don’t ask
my children! With my second child I realized
that this little guy, as well as his older
brother, was the epitome of undeveloped
potential. And my job as their father was to
help them unlock, develop, and demonstrate
those potentials in their own lives – not
mine. And I knew, too, that although I was
ultimately responsible as their father for
how they were raised, they would, unfairly,
have to deal with the consequences of their
upbringing, not me.
It was a matter of time, then, that I began
to include them in many of the activities I
was engaged in, as they were competent for
their age and as they grew older. Rather
than telling them to pick up their toys, I
said, “Well it’s about time for bed, why
don’t we put away the toys that are lying
around the house, and put them in your toy
box for you to get out tomorrow?” Yes, it
was a rhetorical question. Later, as they
grew older they would occasionally ask if
they could pick up their toys because they
were really tired and wanted to go to bed.
And so, over the years we vacuumed, washed
dishes, tilled the garden, planted seeds,
and weeded together, plus all the other
“chores” (read: opportunities for working
together, and learning together). And soon
the years passed and we could be found on
some Saturday changing oil in their cars,
replacing spark plugs, lowering the
suspension, and working in the small company
we had.
Often is was not easy doing all of that – we
had to make time to be together. But all of
us learned so much. Now the boys are older –
they are independent entrepreneurs, while
their sister is in the last stages of her
graduate school career as a
geneticist-microbiologist. Now, if they are
workaholics, it’s because they probably
learned it from me and their mother, or they
have chosen to do that for the time being.
But they also know what a balanced life is
all about too. In large part, that is what
being a holist is all about – managing your
life’s goals so that you have time to live a
balanced life. …if not all the time, then as
you are able to choose and live it out.
The spiritual side of that is this – I have
come to understand the purpose of life, my
life, and the meaning of life for me, and
for others, if they ask. Having this basic
understanding —and acceptance—has helped me
focus my energies upon my own growth rather
than dithering around in life chasing false
goals. This has helped me act as a life
coach to friends who were having difficulty
understand their life, their failures,
challenges and difficulties. They asked,
”Why is life so hard?!” They came to
appreciate their problems and challenges
from new perspectives. And they moved on. My
perspectives didn’t make their difficulties
any easier, but they had a reference that
helped them place their difficulties in the
spectrum of their life, rather than seeing
their problems as destroying their life.
There are dozens of pithy statements that
have come along the way. Do they become
clichés or do they become guides for our
daily living? It’s ok to make mistakes — the
only failure is the second time you make the
same mistake. Do we take that to heart, or
do we sometimes become “stuck” in life,
making the same circuit of our life in
smaller and smaller circles? That is surely
one of the most challenging places a person
can be. That’s where a friend outside of
your own life can be of immense help.
With “holism” you get a fuller picture of
your life, even if you pursue only one
avenue of growth. It is important that once
you fulfill that avenue of growth you then
understand how it fits with the rest of your
life.
What is success in a single field of
interest if in achieving it you have lost
all else that matters in your life? Life is
not only about success, but also about the
balance of life and the balance in living.
I have found that whether I know it or not,
as I rose in my successes, others will be
there with me. Being successful is a huge
magnet to other successful people.
Commitment to
Holistic Life Coaching
I am committed to helping each client
develop wholeness in their life, to discover
and develop their latent potentials to
become all and more than they had thought
possible.
I am convinced that developing wholeness in
our lives is a journey of discovery for
fulfilling all of our inner needs in order
to actualize all of the potentials that lie
dormant and fertile within us. If one aspect
is not fulfilled, then succeeding areas of
our life will not be able to develop and
actualize fully. We will be stunted in our
growth. Abraham Maslow described a hierarchy
of needs that must be satisfied at the early
levels in order that our higher levels of
being become satisfied, culminating with
actualizing our potentials as creators.
Being a creator has been one of the most
exciting aspects of my life. I look forward
to supporting and coaching others to become
the creators of their life’s course.
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